Happy New Year 2026

As promised - no I didn't actually promise it, but I know you are all expecting it - I have filled out my goal template and will be sharing it. I know, that was pretty quick turn around. Yes, I can also give a brief rundown of how to fill this thing out, even though I linked a thorough breakdown in my last post.... Lazy, all of you. I'm teasing.

As a reminder, here's what the template looks like. This is the template I have been using since 2015, and stemmed from a similar template the lovely WitchyWords.com - a blog that has since been removed from the public eye, but will forever have a special place in my heart. I digress. 

The template features a pentagram with the corresponding elements. Each element categorizes types of goals I wish to work towards in the coming calendar year. Personally, I only list my top 3 goals for each section, for cleanliness. That seems to be what fits best in this template, but each of my own goals have multiple subgoals that will help me achieve these top three. 

In the center of the pentagram is my number one main goal for the year. This is what I am ultimately striving to achieve, and success in each category will help me achieve this.

At the top of the star, we have Spirit. The section next to it is for spiritual goals. This is where I place all the goals I have for my spiritual self, for my practice and craft, and any other goals that my help me along my spiritual journey.

Ex: start a book of shadows, try out a new spell, create an altar space, etc.

Moving clockwise (because we want the year to be a positive one), is the Air element and its corresponding section. These goals are for my career and work related things. Goals that will help me grow in my working life, whether that is my professional career, freelance work, or schooling towards the career I want. 

Ex: find a job, get a promotion, finish a project, catch up on tasks, etc.

Next is the element Earth, for home and hearth goals. Goals I have within my home and family space go here. Anything that will help improve the sacred space of my home.

Ex: pay off debts, save for a big purchase, decluttering, moving, etc.

Then there is Fire. Here is where we have goals for my relationships. This doesn't have to be just intimate relationships either. This could be relationships with my friends, family members as well. These goals will help strengthen these relationships and encourage growth within them.

Ex: go on dates, engagement/marriage, make new friends, host parties, family time, etc.

Lastly is Water. This is for health and fitness goals. These goals include physical and mental health, and will help me create healthy habits to treat my entire body like the temple that it is.

Ex: being more active, weight loss, healthy eating, breaking unhealthy habits, medicine intake, self care time, etc.

I did change the order of the elements, after a handful of complaints over on Pinterest of all places. So an updated blank copy is available for download so that you too can use this tool to create and maintain your new year goals.

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Alright, time to share my own goals with you all, and break them down. You weirdos want a window into my practice, since you're here reading this. On the off chance you are here just for the breakdown above, you can stop reading now, as everything moving forward will be personal to my own goals.

BAM! There she is, resurrected with her fraternal twin above. Filled out and ready for progression. I can cross off filling this thing out on my to-do list!

Just like above, I'm going to start at the top and move clockwise through these goals. We go clockwise to promote positivity and success, drawing in the perseverance to keep working on our goals, even when its tough. Even if we fall behind. Even when we don't feel like it.

Here we go!

Spiritual Goals:

More Spell Work

Last year, I did some basic spell work: creating a sour jar, a money jar, and some tarot reading. I added to my book of shadows, and helped a friend with their own cord cutting ceremony. I offered spiritual advice to a handful of people, some in passing, some came directly to me. In the coming year, I will continue these types of work, and MORE. I will be exploring crafting more spell work, increasing the amount of spiritual advice I share, and partake in more ceremonies either with others or in solitude.

Continue Growing the Blogs

There's getting to be a handful of these things. I've taken a meaningful break from this blog to focus more on making my craft more of a habit. In that time, I did a deep dive into my spirituality and had some interesting and thought provoking moments. It sparked the creation of another blog. So it's time to work my way back to this blog as well. I have been adding to my book of shadows here and there, and that is something I am going to continue to do. The other platforms I use will continue to grow and develop as I work on this one, so I am not as focused on their growth, as it will just happen organically.

Deepen Divine Feminine

I am a force to be reckoned with. I am divine, full of magic and power and wonder. My body is a temple where I worship who I am, as I am. My femininity is sacred and connects me to the vast line of divine feminine figures throughout history. I am connected to my own divinity, my own femininity, my own source of power.

Career & Work Goals:

More Writing

With the new year comes more writing. While not related to my current career choice, writing is a hobby I am committing to as if it were my job. Whether it is articles for the blogs, progress in various novels, or rekindling my love for poetry, I am writing more in the coming year. Re-sparking that passion for creativity from pen to paper.

More Art

More creating, more crafting, more art. This life is my canvas and I am the artist, creating my own masterpiece. When you love what you do, it doesn't much seem like work. Art is a love I have in all of its forms, and my life will have more art of my own.

Rewriting Manual

I am progressing in my career as I tackle my biggest project yet. Rewriting the manual for the job I've held the past 3 years. The same manual originally written by my mother before her retirement. As a lead employee, with more knowledge than anyone else in my unit, I am creating a detailed instructional manual for all tasks and processes within the unit. This will help put my mind at ease that duties and functionality continue in my absence - so that I may take well deserved time off when it is needed.

Home & Hearth Goals:

Bookshelf Tops

Alas I have finally outgrown my current library shelves. At a whopping 2,340 books in my home, I have run out of shelf space. I am no longer putting off expanding my library shelves, and am adding the top sections to each of the bookcases in the library. I am also drafting up plans for the lofted shelves in my bedroom. My home is my magical space, and I am creating it to be my own temple. I can think of nothing more magical than books.

Office Space Cleanup

Clutter is the downfall of a quiet and focused mind. I will not work in chaos, and with work-from-home being a potential option, I am tackling clutter and chaos. My work space is being organized and tidied up. My art desk is being cleaned and readied for more regular use. My love for organized space is something I am passing along to my children through learned behavior and healthy cleaning habits.

Conscious Purchasing

Money will never not be tight. I am a single mother of two, maintaining bills, necessities, and luxuries. I understand the difference between wants and needs, and I continue to make conscious decisions when purchasing. Impulse buying is a habit I am breaking.

Relationship Goals:

Maintain Boundaries

I am setting boundaries within the relationships I choose to keep. I do not feel guilty by creating boundaries with people to keep my own peace. I am not swayed to break or be lax on maintaining my boundaries. They are there to ensure the sacred balance I have with myself, and I will never take that lightly. I cannot pour from an empty cup; boundaries are how I continue to pour into my own cup. 

More Time With Friends

This once or twice a year crap needs to end. My friends are chosen family, and I am choosing to spend my time with them. I am including them in more parts of my life, making intentional contact and building these friendships that I hold so dear. It is time for reconnection with those I hold close.

More Family Time

Now more than ever it is crucial to focus on family. In the reduction of potential family time and activities, I am focusing on making the time I have with family is held with high regard. The time we do have together is important, and every little moment counts. 

Health & Fitness Goals:

More Water

That doesn't say less coffee, it just says MORE WATER. I am increasing my water intake, as I am tired of my insides being raisins. Water is an element I hold very dear to me, and seeing as my own sacred body is made up of mostly water, it is only natural that I continue to pour into myself.

3rd Degree Black Belt

So hey, I decided to return to taekwondo after taking a nine year hiatus (and you thought I took long breaks from this blog...). I promised my teen that when he achieved his 1st Degree, I would return and train with him. I am keeping my word. I earned my 2nd Degree way back then, and I am overdue for earning my 3rd Degree. I am putting in the training hours to make steps towards my next rank, and I am making great progress. Working out doesn't have to be a chore when you find a sport you love. Somehow, I also managed to talk my father into picking up the sport, so three days before his 63rd birthday, he was given his white belt and began his training with us.

Balance & Flexibility

In returning to taekwondo, I was humbled by the realization that I had lost a great amount of balance and flexibility. As I continue to put in the training hours towards my next rank, I know my balance and flexibility will return. In the 5 months I have been back, I have already seen improvements. I will continue to improve and discover new strengths in my training.

Central Goal:

A Balanced Life With Less Stress & Anxiety

Stress and anxiety have been a beast the past few years. Quite the ugly monster, and I am ready to face that monster head on. I am not afraid. I am finding balance in life. I am finding my calm, my peace, my strength, my determination. I am in control of my life, and that monster of negativity will stay in 2025.

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And with all this, I'll wrap up 2025 by wishing you all a Happy New Year.

Incoming: 2026

Infuse your home with intentions 

in preparation for the new calendar year.

Cleansing

Clean with purpose. Not just picking up and basic sweeping. Rid things that bring negativity. Organize with function in mind, rather than aesthetic. Cleanse the atmosphere as well as your mind. Rid yourself of negative thoughts, stressors, and anxiety. Focus on your end goals and hopes for the future.

Grounding

Ground yourself. Meditate on the goals you will achieve in the coming year. Not just goals you want to make - verbiage is important. Speak their success into existence. Instead of saying "I will be more organized," speak it as if you have already achieved it: "I AM organized." 

Charging

Charge your space. Push your determination and the strength of your intentions and goals into your home. Visualize this in your mind to help you. Your energy is what is in control; infuse that positive energy into the items in your home, and into your home itself. Your home is a living, breathing entity. It feeds off your energy, your power, your magic. Feed it positivity and strength. 

Purposefully Using

Function in your home with intent. Speak on every small step towards your goal. "I am doing this so that I will achieve..." and "I am achieving this intention by doing this." Remember to thank your home for holding your positivity and strength throughout the year. Be mindful of what kind of energy you allow to grow and feed your home. If you bring negativity in, make sure you sweep it back out. Keep your home not just physically clean, but mentally clean, with the energy you want to maintain.

This is also a great time to use the above template to help organize your goals and intentions. I first saw this template used by Witchy Words (a blog long since privatized, despite being absolutely amazing and informative....I truly miss WW). I decided to make my own version, and released it back in 2015. I have used this exact template personally every year since. It helps me stay organized and connected to my spirituality as I live day to day, with my goals in mind. If you find it helps you as well, feel free to use it: a conveniently placed blank template.

I haven't filled mine out yet. It will something I work on for the next few days, and will possibly share with you readers - I haven't decided.

If you're looking for some guidance on how to use this, I did a big detailed post about it back in 2022: Hello 2022 and despite that year being entirely too complicated, this is still probably the best in depth breakdown of how I use the template. I did change to order of the goals, as I was tired of the whiny complaints I get every year about how people don't like the order I use it. No, it wasn't in the correct order. But it was in the order I felt was best organized for my own mind, and in reality, this blog is more for me than anyone else. So I didn't cater to you, readers (especially those over on Pinterest, where most of the whining comes from). This year, for the sake of my own mental capacity, I felt the whining would be more detrimental to me than maintaining the order I've used this template in for over a decade....you're welcome I guess? I could go on and on about the irony of the backlash I consistently get around my practice, but it isn't worth the energy. I have more important things to do than breakdown why people choose to be awful, and that isn't energy I want to carry into the new calendar year. We are in winter, and winter is for rest and recovery. Part of that is letting things die so that beautiful new things can grow come spring. 

You may also see a new version of this template over on the other blog: SamhainGirl the Kink Witch.  If you know, you know....

Healing: The Sexual Wound

In spirit of taking a purposeful break from here, I have been working on a semi-secret project. Back in March of 2024, I came to a better understanding of just how intertwined my spiritual journey is with other life journeys of mine. I always saw the connection between my spiritual and healing paths. They crossed quite often, and at many times, conjoined. What was a harder realization to recognize, it how these twin paths crossed with another - the path of sexuality. 

Part of me coming into my power and embodying the divine feminine is learning to love not only my body, but my sexuality and desires. The spiritual fueled healing has led me to understand that I must learn to love all aspects of myself, if I am to heal further. Self love, self appreciation, and self adoration has been a huge step in being spiritual. It is spiritual.

This step in healing was a big moment; a moment that opened myself up to new levels of healing and spirituality to explore. So I started to do just that - explore. The draw to the divine feminine was strengthening, and I set new goals in my healing to strengthen my connection with myself. 

Two months later, another realization rocked me at my core. In a moment of private intimacy, the true depths of spirituality crossing sexuality, was brought to light:

"...I am called to recognize that this is the place of my own magical feminine power. Here [...] is where I hold other worldly dimensions. Where I will travel across dimensions unknown to even me, and pluck a soul from the stars of other universes. Here is where I will wrap soul in skin and then push forth stardust into a physical realm; thrust life into reality and tether a star to earth. Here is where I create life, the same way (christian) God breathed life into Adam, only I did it with more determination and sheer strength. And if my feminine power is the same life-creating power of a god, then I am no less a goddess. And I will not allow a man to treat me less than, when he does not possess such divine power of creation. You will not see me less than the goddess I am, when I birth sparks of infinite through my own feminine blood, while I scream with the strength of every silenced goddess you sought to destroy. No you will not treat me less than, because I am what created you. Here [...] where I hold universes you could never step foot in. My power is mine and I will remember it, and I will never let you desecrate the temple of the goddess that is me."

How very intertwined these two paths currently were. Finding strength and power in a very intimate part of me was something to certainly digest. And as I digested, more forgotten pieces were coming back. In my prior healing, I had stepped very far away from sexual intimacy - mentally at least. Sure it was there (obviously, as I shared in prior posts about pregnancy), but it was always separate from my spiritual journey, and a part of my healing that I wasn't ready to work on. Now here was sexual intimacy like a flashing neon sign.

Hello! It's me! It's time to heal the sexual wound!

Oof. That's not an easy task to consider, but oddly was much easier to put into actual practice. I knew I had mental scars and unhealed wounds that encased sex. I knew they were deep, and I knew I'd have to work on them eventually. But damn, I did not think I was ready to do it NOW. I think the universe knows I don't ignore signs, especially flashing neon ones. And this "aha" moment I'd had during private intimacy, was just that. How could I truly love myself if I struggled to accept my sexuality? I guess now its time - thanks universe. 

So next step, do a quick evaluation of my sexuality, and where I currently stand there. What are my current desires when it comes to sexuality? That was an easy answer, as I could only instinctively come up with one - I missed submission. I had delved in the kink lifestyle multiple times in the past, gained some trauma, and then moved away from it. But I missed it. I missed what I knew it could be, and how beautiful it was when practiced correctly. And I was very tired of having only bad experiences with something so beautiful. Time to jump back into kink, but with a new perspective; one that was backed with spiritual sounding. 

This started with some basic internet work. I found a few groups on the book of faces, joined them and started exploring. I somehow found myself in a group chat, and making friends and connections. Ones that I am proud to say have only strengthened and blossomed further, and even spread into more friendships and connections. I won't say there weren't difficulties. There definitely were many difficulties, heartache, and even some backstabbing. But I pushed on, and quickly found myself in the role of "teacher" once again. That old phrase I always say about spirituality, was now echoing through sexuality - "we are always the student, only sometimes the teacher." It was certainly true here too. Despite 14+ years in kink, I was still learning new things, and I seemed to be teaching...A LOT. I picked up on the fact that accurate information and teaching was hard to come by in kink, and even harder to navigate. Like spirituality, there is no one way to do it. It was truly a personalized journey. 

One thing you can count on me for - if there is a need, I'll fill it. I took it upon myself to fill the need for accurate info and teachings. What started as basic discussions in a group chat, evolved into more group chats, the building of another instagram, another FB group, another blog, and then most recently, a discord server. Talk about a whirlwind, but I guess I can add "kink witch" to the profile now.

While getting all these platforms off the ground, and breathing life into all the ideas I have, with the support of the friends and connections I have made here recently, I have taken on the project of becoming a (Witchy) Kink Educator, and building a safe space for learning. There are many beautiful aspects to kink, and while not everyone has spiritual overlaps the way I do, it can truly be a spiritual journey in itself - something I'd be honored to help guide others through.

So with that, I introduce another side of me: